Welcome to

Holy Lament

The Transformative Path of Loss & Longing 

A community grief journey through the Landscape of Loss

with Mirabai Starr

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You are invited to the refuge of

Holy Lament

We welcome those who yearn to turn toward their grief in this community journey.

Grief isn't an illness or mistake,

It is a natural and sacred response to life’s inevitable losses.

It is also a crucible for transformation. 

Society conditions us to swiftly escape painful feelings, depriving us of what our souls know: there is holiness in heartbreak, beauty in the wounds, metamorphosis unfolds through cocoon-like dissolution.

You don’t need to make this grief journey alone.  

A circle of like-minded companions, in the hands of wise and loving guides, awaits you here.

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 "What a satisfying relief to know that the jagged, overwhelming reactions to terrible losses are perfectly normal.”

-Margy G., Holy Lament member


Your Loss Counts

Please don’t discount your grief. 


Whether you’ve lost the love of your life or been fired from a job that defined you, your loss counts. 


Not only that, but your grief is a holy portal, and we are here to step through with you into a state of more radical aliveness.

We tenderly extend this invitation to people experiencing all forms of loss:

Death of a loved one


Pregnancy loss

Change of health

Loss of a job

 Significant life change

Grief for the world and our planet

Any other version of the human condition that shatters your previous reality

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Have you faced a profound loss that changes your very being?


Do you feel drawn to embrace your heartbreak, instead of avoiding or fixing it?


 Do you long for a dedicated space to mourn consciously?


Would it provide comfort to know that while grief is unique, there are dependable universal elements in the landscape of loss?

We welcome you.

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12 Thresholds through the Landscape of Loss

Together we will explore 12 features in the landscape of loss that, when approached mindfully and heartfully, can become portals of transformation. 


Each month our community focuses on a threshold on the grief journey, such as “Solitude” or “Fearlessness.”

 During the month, Holy Lament members receive:


-Monthly live calls with small groups, writing practice related to the month's threshold and live Q&A with Mirabai


-An email with Mirabai's reflections on that aspect of the grief journey


-Weekly videos with Mirabai's musings on the threshold


-Conversations with many renowned speakers on grief related to the theme of the month


-Community connection with like minded companions to reflect and share

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What's included in Holy Lament

Live Calls

Join our interactive live monthly calls with Mirabai on the last Wednesday of each month at 11 am PT exploring grief, longing, and mysticism. Sessions are recorded, and you can submit questions in advance.

Weekly Videos

A new video will be available each week catered to the month's threshold with an explanation of each threshold, supporting practices, songs and conversations with renowned guests.

Monthly Emails

Each month, Mirabai will email you her poetic reflections for that threshold plus a writing prompt for the month's threshold.


Community Connections

Willow, Monika Denise, and friends will be actively engaged with you in a dedicated online community group. They will provide guidance, companionship, and valuable support tailored to enhance and enrich your Holy Lament journey.


Unraveling the Myths of Grief

Join our community and get Lifetime Access to "Unraveling the Myths of Grief" recordings. What you can expect:

Self-Paced Learning

Embrace self-paced learning with convenient access to recordings for guidance and reflection at your convenience. 

 In-Depth Exploration

Discover enlightening sessions with Mirabai as she dispels grief myths, exploring its complexity, cultural influence, and spiritual relevance.


Transformative Practices

Explore tools and practices to embrace grief as a sacred path, gaining actionable insights for your journey.


We're here to support your journey with tools and wisdom to navigate the human spirit's garden gracefully.

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By participating in Holy Lament,

you will...

 Remember what your soul has always known: that you belong to the human family, and loss is a shared reality. 


Affirm that there are many forms of loss and many ways to grieve.


 Recognize when a particular feeling you may be having is a natural expression of the grief process rather than a sign that something is wrong with you.


 Find comfort in knowing that those who have walked before you have left footprints you can follow through the wilderness.


 Experience renewed capacity to experience the beauty and sacredness of life.


 Develop a robust container of compassion to be able to hold others as they grieve.


 Compile a body of writing on your story of transformational loss.

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Meet Mirabai

Mirabai Starr is an award-winning author of creative non-fiction and contemporary translations of sacred literature.

 She taught Philosophy and World Religions at the University of New Mexico-Taos for 20 years and now teaches and speaks internationally on contemplative practice and inter-spiritual dialog.

 A certified bereavement counselor, Mirabai helps mourners harness the transformational power of loss. Her latest book, WILD MERCY: Living the Fierce & Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics, was named one of the “Best Books of 2019”.

 She lives with her extended family in the mountains of northern New Mexico. 

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Meet Willow

Willow Brook is an earth loving facilitator, educator, seeker, artist and friend on fire for love, truth and embodied liberation.  

With a lifetime of experience on an interspiritual path and a decade of experience teaching in classrooms across the world, Willow brings devotional song and prayer into everything she does.  

She facilitates grief gatherings, guides yoga and was a resident at the iconic intentional community, Lama Foundation.

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 “Time with Mirabai and Willow is time outside of time - a value all its own." 

-Mary Louise M., Holy Lament member


 Is Holy Lament for you?

 This gathering is an invitation to those who are willing to sit in the unknown and turn toward grief as a transformational journey.


We invite you to join Holy Lament if...


-You are able to sit in the unknown


-You are ready to turn toward grief as a transformational invitation


-You sense the fragrance of the sacred emanating from your heartbreak


-You have an accompanying network of support in your everyday life


-Your heart cries yes to the song we are singing

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X   This program may not be for you if...


X    You are seeking a psychological framework for your grief process 


X   You require trauma support and don't have it


X   You are expecting a specific set of tools and techniques to show you how to grieve


X   You wish to be initiated and indoctrinated into a particular spiritual belief system to rescue you from your loss


X   Expecting a certificate or licensure 

Disclaimer: It is important to us that you have the necessary support beyond our community container. Wild Heart does not provide crisis intervention and does not replace the care of psychologists or other healthcare professionals.

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What community 

members have to say...


“My intent upon joining was to examine my life’s losses and properly grieve them. That goal has been met tenfold. What a satisfying relief to know that the jagged, overwhelming reactions to terrible losses are perfectly normal.”

-Margy G., Holy Lament member


"Our collective has shifted the ritual of life into the routine of existence, and it is heartbreaking that there is such an absence of group ceremony where we feel held by our community and we feel we belong. Holy Lament provides this space to grievers. A space filled with the healing feminine face of the holy. It is so needed and such a balm."

-Sarah P., Holy Lament member

“Time with Mirabai and Willow is time outside of time - a value all its own. Time with others willing to open their stories in collected writings is amazing. It allows sharing without “too much” while we process our own grief and amplify understanding.”

-Mary Louise M., Holy Lament member


"Hearing Mirabai’s deep wisdom is more than being supported or accompanied, it is also experiencing moments of clarity when you suddenly shift to another perspective. Grief can be threaded with grace, I learned from Mirabai’s teachings. My burden of grief lightened when she reframed the stages of grief as stations. And then, Willow's gorgeous melodies that point to the heart of the Divine comforted and lifted me up."

-Wendy Brown-Baez, author of 
Heart on the Page and Ceremonies of the Spirit
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We look forward to walking with you through the Landscape of Loss.